An Observation

The lessons learnt are as a result of personal experience so it might vary from the reader’s perspective and may be partly because I might not be able to fabricate all my experiences in words.

1) All of us have aims and goals in life. Not all of us are particular about the long run but we all have immediate goal like getting into a good college, bagging a good scholarship, getting out of the famous “five point someone domain”, winning inter hostel or inter college competition or may be something like achieving pre-defined target under a given timeline.
2) We’ve to work hard for it. [Everyone knows that.]
3) Apart from these two, there is a third category which includes everything that doesn’t come under the first two. You can broadly call it a Sustenance Factor, or the factors that gives meaning to life.


Many of us are not able to achieve our so called goals and sometimes when we do achieve we realize that we are late. Now as a result of the outcome we decide to cut down activities from the third part thinking that the time spent on those things can be reduced so that time spent on fruitful work can be optimized (Quite a reasonable decision). One can reduce the third part to mere zero but then that condition won’t stay for long because for the second category to deliver efficiently a proper amount of third category is needed.

We are morally taught that if we follow religious doctrines and keep away from things like booze and liquor, we‘d be successful person for sure. Well, it might be apt but only to an extent. If you really want to get something, work for it. Being ridiculous about it, isn’t going to help. I’ve heard people saying that, I’m a very nice person. I don’t smoke and I don’t drink but still God is unfair to me and the guy who lives next to me does all rubbish things and is still getting promoted while I’m stuck at the same desk from the moment I joined the company. [This example can be easily extended to college or school life. All you have to do is replace promotion with better marks.]

First thing,
GOD IS NOT UNFAIR TO ANYONE.

He’s perhaps the kindest of all. If you’d have been in his position, you may have awarded yourself with even lesser happiness quotient. Now the guy next to you is getting promoted because he worked for it (apart from getting wasted all the time, he must be giving enough time on his work which is the reason why he’s successful today). People who just keep bitching about others stay where they are. It doesn’t matter what you choose from the third category, if you work on the second part you’ll definitely get to the first part. There is no if and but here.

Another instance is that most people blame their relationship when they are not able to perform academically or professionally. There are three possibilities when they walk out of their relationships.
a) Success remains same
b) Success increases
c) Success decreases

Now the most important part before you decide to walk out is to identify what your relationship is all about. If it didn’t mean much to you and she/he was just to keep you engaged for a while, you’ll be in the category (a)
If she/he was waste and you genuinely wanted to get and you knew beforehand that he/she just an obstacle in your way, then category (b)
And if she/he was your support system, then category (c)

Another side to these incidents is making silly resolutions like “Until and unless I get this done, I won’t be talking to him/her”. This is another pragmatic situation which needs to be addressed on a personal level. For some people this acts as a boon and for some it has side effects. The reason being the same, every one of these situations affects us differently. The bottom line is just don’t bring relationships into work and vice-versa. Your professional goals and achievements depend on how much work you put into it and not how much relationships you sacrifice for that.